Part 2 of Emotional Intelligence

Dr.Sanja Rickette Stinson
February 2, 2024
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If you did not read part one click here:

Pt. 2: From Speech Impediment to Faith-Based Entrepreneur & Nonprofit CEO

In Part 2 of this EQ series, our objective is to illuminate the positive facets of emotional intelligence and its potential as a potent tool for women entrepreneurs' women who connect with me and others. Within this segment, I've shared my real-life success story, offering practical insights and tips for women seeking to augment their emotional intelligence. 

Moving forward to Part 2 of the series, we will delve deeper into stereotypes that often suggest women are more emotional than men within professional settings. We intend to challenge these preconceived notions and advocate for a more balanced and nuanced understanding of emotional intelligence across genders. 

I do not claim to be an expert in the field in any way. Instead, I aim to share valuable experiences and insights that may benefit women entrepreneurs, especially faith-based professional women seeking to harness the power of emotional intelligence in their entrepreneurial journey.

I begin this blog by reflecting on a standard societal narrative that many have encountered. Growing up with brothers in our home, I often heard my father tell them, "Men aren't supposed to cry, men aren't supposed to show weakness, men aren't supposed to appear weak. When you cry, it makes us seem weak". The narrative raises a fundamental question; "why aren't men encouraged to cry, express emotions, or let out frustration when needed? Yet, it's okay and even expected of women. What distinguishes them from women, who often intentionally and openly express their emotions? Does it truly make men weak and less strong, or is there more to this complex narrative? 

As I prepare to delve into Part 2 of our exploration into emotional intelligence and the connection to gender stereotypes, I took the opportunity to engage in several conversations with individuals close to me who were both comfortable and interested in this topic. 

These discussions yielded a mix of insightful responses, but one particular response stood out for me. One man said, "I was told that tears don't make you weak ."WOW! It was a simple yet profound statement that challenged the traditional notion of masculinity and emotional expression. 

In addition to this, others echoed similar sentiments. They acknowledged that expressing emotions, including shedding tears, doesn't weaken one's masculinity or signify a lack of strength. They share that allowing themselves to cry and openly display their emotion has been liberating. It has improved their emotional well-being and strengthened their connections with those around them. 

In the role I serve as a CEO of a nonprofit, the majority of our clients (85%) are black African American men. Consequently, I've sometimes witnessed an emotional rollercoaster with ups, downs, highs, and lows. I've seen how when men aren't used to expressing their emotions (EI), it results in stress, anger, and more. In the same tone, fifteen (15%) of the population we serve are women.

Regardless of gender, I believe emotional intelligence is a valuable asset for success in entrepreneurial ventures and collaborations. It promotes better relationships, effective communication, and the ability to navigate the complex emotional landscape of business. 

Regardless of gender, individuals who invest in developing their EI can create more productive, harmonious, and thriving work environments.

Here are the ways to tear down barriers:

  • Establish Communication Ground Rules: Foster a culture of open communication that transcends gender boundaries. This entails mastering the art of active listening, practicing empathy, and embracing one another's emotions and concerns. Empathy, a cornerstone of emotional intelligence (EI), enhances collaboration and teamwork.

  • Feedback and Self-Reflection: Cultivate a willingness to provide constructive feedback to each other regarding emotional reactions and communication styles.

  • Continuous Learning: Recognize that EI is a skill that can be nurtured and honed over time. Encourage both genders to seek self-improvement and ongoing learning in their interactions continually. This approach sets a positive and constructive tone for individual growth and the team's development.

Regardless of gender, by actively promoting and practicing emotional intelligence, men and women in business, entrepreneurship, or collaboration can enhance their individual success and contribute to a more inclusive, empathetic, and productive working environment. Embracing EI as a shared goal can improve teamwork, problem-solving, and overall success. 

Feel free to share your feedback on this or any blog we present; your input is highly valued to We sincerely appreciate your insights. Stay tuned for our upcoming post next week, the final part of our series, where we aim to dispel misconceptions about how gender may limit emotional intelligence.

Dr.Sanja Rickette Stinson, DM

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